It is not that I don’t love when he is awake, when we are seated together on the floor contemplating the curves of a toy or the sound two cups make when they are bashed into each other. I love those moments as well. I love to watch as he cruises around the room, one hand on the couch, the other wriggling behind him in a test of balance and fate, as he drums the life out of a toy or as he giggles wildly at the movement of the dog. I love those moments and yet, always, I am lost in them ? a small piece of me has broken free and is floating somewhere in the distance, in the realm of adult conversation, in loose trains of thought. In those moments, I sometimes wonder how the time will pass, and what we will do with the next three hours of our lives.
This is the paradox of motherhood, and especially maternity leave, something I have learned in the last nine months of being home from work and nurturing my little one. You want desperately to live each moment, savour each awkward step and full-bodied cry; you want to watch each second of growth, to be there for every breath and hard-earned first and yet those same moments are sometimes so exceptionally long, drawn out and lonely. I only vaguely remember now what it was like to have appointments, deadlines, an agenda book to fill and carry, a time that was marked by the length of meetings and intellectual exercises and not by full diapers, trains, sing songs and naps.
I am sinking into this motherhood thing, each day trying hard to not only be present, but also to be alive and engaged with a mind that does not wander, knowing how to absorb it fully as a second in my son’s ever-changing life, a second that cannot be retrieved again. Slowly, I am growing into the meditation required, the routine that is necessary and the patience that fuels it all.
Writing Start: Living in the Moment
]]>Here are the acts of heroism I have committed in my life: labour, birth, mother. I am a superhero of epic proportions. I clean baby bottles with one hand while putting dishes away with the other. I answer phone calls and make dinner while carrying child on hip. I leap toys in a single bound, step gracefully over baby gates and combat sniffles with my super powers. I am everything to everyone, if nothing to myself.
Superheros don?t cry so I shudder in corners, my head tucked tightly to my knees, my chest heaving silently. Superheros don?t have inadequacies so I guard mine like a careful secret ? smiling through tantrums and cooing through feelings of emptiness and despair. Darkness is hidden in sheets, carefully washed, and amidst meals prepared with smiles. Tucked underneath the broccoli or beside the meat.
I am a superhero in the land of motherhood and my identity is locked up inside a silent creed: do and be everything, find pleasure in the depths of selflessness and giving. Never let up or let go. Do. Do. Do.
The truth is I am not heroic: my cape is ill-fitting and I often trip my way through flight. The truth is on a daily basis I feel less than adequate, drained and consumed. I diaper my son and change him each day. I feed him his bottle and prepare his meals. I play beside him, watching his inquisitive eyes glance over object after object contemplating existence carefully. I retreat like a turtle in a shell when he cries incessantly and jump at the opportunity to leave him in the care of another. This is not the stuff of heroism. This is the stuff of defeat.
I am a superhero. I wear the armor of these words and revel in the slow catharsis of their meaning. I am not a superhero. I made it through today, but nobody is counting.
Next week?s writing start: Feeling Strong
]]>I didn’t even want to consider a cesarean section, but the baby wasn’t budging. One of us had to call uncle.
By Nancy Vye
Published in the Globe and Mail, March 17, 2009
Hooked up to a half-dozen machines spitting out information in beeps and ticker tape, I waited to be told when my next contraction had started.
“Now!” the nurse shouted.
My dutiful husband counted to 10 - so slowly I thought he might have forgotten how - as I bore down like a contender for the strongest person alive, straining every last muscle in my body until I felt like my eardrums would burst.
After almost three hours, though, the baby wouldn’t budge. Over the past nine months, this child of mine had been rearranging organs like a feng shui master, but was now obstinately declaring squatter’s rights over my uterus. Equally determined, I refused to relent.
My eyes on the nurse, I awaited her progress report. “You’re doing really well,” she lied. “Let me get the doctor.”
All of a sudden receiving an epidural seemed like a bad idea. Surely if I had toughed it out and chosen to do this naturally I could at least feel myself push. Then my child could be born the way I expected. The way I wanted.
But now, with my body failing in its attempts at superhero strength, I worried about how much longer I could continue to battle.
The thought made my chest tighten. Turning to search the pea-green walls of my hospital room for answers, I silently prayed. Please, I begged, please, please, please, no one utter the C-word.
The mere notion sent me back with a shudder to Grade 9 religion class. Our very single and easily embarrassed male teacher was charged with the tormenting task of teaching 20 tittering 14-year-olds about the miracle of birth. He decided everything we needed to know about how babies are made could be learned from watching a dubbed Swedish film.
The low-budget movie began with beauties Ingrid and Eric at the beach in all their blond splendour, laughing and splashing in the sea. Cut to scene two, where Ingrid was suddenly nine months along. The absurdity of the story wasn’t lost on a room full of rowdy, know-it-all teenagers. We heckled our scarlet-faced teacher and mocked how little the film assumed we knew.
That was until the birthing scene began.
As if witnessing a catastrophic collision - unable to avert our eyes from the goriness - we watched the lens zoom in as the most intimate details of Ingrid spread across the screen. A serene voiceover calmly described the horrific scene while our faces contorted in tandem with Ingrid as an alien being burst from her vagina as if exiting a waterslide.
If that wasn’t traumatic enough, our omnipotent raconteur then graphically detailed the only possible alternative - the cesarean section.
Images of a shiny scalpel, bright lights and a nameless woman strapped to a metal slab flashed on the screen - straight from a Stephen King novel.
I left that class feeling numb, stunned. The only lesson I learned that day was abstinence. If there was one reason I didn’t have sex in high school, it was the Swedes.
I swallowed back resurfacing images of the real-life horror film. I would have this baby, but not by surgery. Not a chance.
The hospital room felt like it was shrinking. Four nurses, a doctor, a resident and my husband all focused on me, or more truthfully, on the baby hiding inside me. They were waiting for one of us to do something. One of us to call uncle.
Reviewing the ticker tape of my contractions the doctor turned to me. “We need to make a decision. Your baby’s heart rate is progressively dropping each time you push and is still too far up to use forceps or the vacuum. We really need to consider taking you into surgery now.”
But there’s still time, I pleaded. Like in the movies, just one more try was all I needed for my happy ending.
Begrudgingly, the doctor allowed me my Spielberg moment. Looking and sounding every bit the savage warrior, I pushed, summoning the furthest muscles in my big toes and pinky fingers to use every last drop of energy. After minutes that seemed like hours, my body collapsed onto the bed as I deliriously searched the many sets of eyes trained on me, waiting for the victorious high fives to start.
Nothing. Their expressions were frozen. Unmoving. Just like my child.
This offspring seemed to have inherited our combined stubbornness and tenacity. Apparently, what I wanted didn’t matter any more.
And then it dawned on me. It didn’t.
Like the climax of the after-school special, I finally understood this life lesson. Whether I liked it or not, my world had officially changed. This had never been about me.
A torrent of tears storming my cheeks, I turned to the doctor and nodded, unable to say the word.
Within the hour, a stranger cloaked in surgical garb rested my daughter on my chest, and I gasped as I gazed for the first time into her tiny, beautiful, flawless face.
Softly pressing my lips to her forehead, I realized there is nothing I wouldn’t do for her.
Nancy Vye lives in Toronto.
]]>I dread the coming days, counting in my head the number of months I have been pregnant, so many days spent in discomfort. I make it to the washroom and squat with great effort to pee. Instead, something rips through my body, threatening to tear me apart from the inside. I put one hand to my belly and silently ask if this is my son?s birth day? I am four days overdue and bursting with eagerness.
I feel another sharp pain radiate up through my body and I keel over just slightly to bear the weight of it. Suddenly I know, like I thought I would not, that it is time. I recall myself, just one week earlier standing in the doctor?s office. As I turn my head to go, I look back at him seated in his white coat.
?Will I know when I go into labour?? I ask, feeling silly and childish for having to ask.
My vision of labor is the stuff of make-believe ? television programs that depict childbirth as a quick process of urgency, panic and stress. I don?t yet understand that it takes many hours to build to this point. I don?t yet know that you are never really ready. And yet, as I grip the countertop and pain shoots through my body, I know. It is odd to want this pain, but I do.
Throughout my pregnancy, like many women, I spent a great deal of time thinking about the birth process, fearing it. I did not write a birth plan, like so many of my friends, because it would have consisted of only a few words: get him out of me as quickly as possible. Make me numb with drugs. Period.
I fear pain, the process of it and its accumulation. Instead, I?d hoped to feel nothing except the joy of surrender and the beauty of his tiny body placed into my tired arms. I know there are women out there who believe childbirth should be felt, like the passage or initiation it is. But I know the limits of my body and do not wish to test them. I don?t believe this makes me less brave or less of a mother. I simply want to surrender to the advances of modern science. I want it to be over as quickly as possible.
In the end, I labored for thirteen hours. Half that time was spent gripping railings in hospital washrooms, white-knuckling the sides of my erect bed. The other half was spent in blissful peace, contemplating the curve of my son?s face and the soft dimple of his tiny belly.
But if I was determined and brave in my acceptance of labor drugs, I was also sheepish and guilty, as if those women who braved it drug-free are somehow better and more heroic. I cringe when sharing birth stories because there is inevitably one mother who clung to her pain like a lioness. I feel apologetic in those moments, sitting quietly with my son in my arms. I am apologetic because my own experience was so perfectly comfortable.
Labour pain, and this inner commingling of guilt and confidence, was a precursor for other things to come in my motherhood journey: uninvited advice, second-guessing my instinct and the destructive power of self-criticism. I am beginning to learn, if slowly, that I am not alone in feeling this way. We all question our decisions and there are so many facing us as mothers: from immunizations to co-sleeping, to diet, potty training and preschool.
I wish someone would write a universal how-to-manual of motherhood in which all the mysteries of sleep, poop and well-being are contained, and that this manual would be uncontroversial in all respects. But let?s face it, this will never happen ? we will continue to debate our own decisions and the decisions of others with respect to how we raise our children. Because there is no how-to-manual, it is instinct we must rely upon: what feels right. Trust your heart, my mother always said, because in the end (and in the beginning) that is all you?ve really got.
Next week?s writing start: Trust.
]]>Published in The Globe and Mail, March 2, 2009
I was shocked. Completely and utterly shocked. I was so surprised by the stupidity of her comment that it took me a few moments to find my voice and mumble an astounded, “Too traumatic? Did you just say it would be too traumatic for young kids to be around disabled children like my son?”
Being a parent of a severely disabled child is indescribably difficult and filled with so many challenges, not the least of which is a constant battle against fear borne out of ignorance. But there is no reason to be scared of my son. His disability is not contagious, though his laughter is. And it is so hard to deal with people who don’t understand that.
Around the time that new mothers are starting to feel comfortable with their new bundles of joy, I was thrust into the terrifying and unexpected role of protector. Not in the typical “I won’t let anyone push you in the playground” way. I was learning to stand up to ignorant people, people who were afraid of my son.
I am not naive enough to believe that everyone must accept my child without hesitation. He is different. He can’t sit by himself, he drools and, although he understands everything that goes on around him, his communication skills are limited to yes and no responses.
It’s not easy to look at a beautiful little boy, with thick dark hair and a giggle that makes you want to laugh too, in a body that doesn’t work properly.
But when someone takes the time to come close to him and look a bit deeper, they can see so much life and mischief in his gigantic green eyes, lined with enviously long black eyelashes.
Over the course of Jacob’s six years, I have seen that young children are incredibly accepting of differences. When he was 3, Jacob attended a summer camp with “regular” kids. Although his bunkmates understood he was different ? he couldn’t walk, talk or eat like they did ? he still fit in. When the group participated in a scavenger hunt, some kids helped him collect his pieces without a ?©counsellor’s prompting.
At the end of another summer-camp experience, the director called to tell me she thought the staff and other campers benefited at least as much from being around Jacob as he did from being at camp. She told me a group of children would take turns sitting next to him, recording their voices on his communication switch, which he uses to make himself understood, and reading to him after lunch. I was not surprised, but I was proud of my son.
Two years later, at another camp, I was told that Jacob had made a new friend. A few days into the session, this friend announced that Jacob was her new “number 1 best friend.” By the following week, Jacob was Taryn’s boyfriend. She told everyone she knew that she liked to “kiss his eyeballs.” At 6 years old, 10 days younger than Jacob, this little girl wasted no time getting to know him.
Jacob’s experience with typically developing kids has always been positive ? young children tend to gravitate toward him, not savvy enough to notice their parents’ discomfort over how to react in the presence of a severely disabled child.
So when I was told by a senior administrator at a private school that exposing young kids to disabled children was not something the school would support, I was horrified.
We were discussing whether her Grade 2 students, some of whom knew my son, could perform their class play for the students at Jacob’s school.
I questioned whether she meant the experience would be too traumatic for the students or for the teachers. She reiterated that according to her advisers, it would be “too traumatic for the students.”
As this discussion was unfolding, the stupidity of her words reverberated in my head. My amazement at her ignorance grew until I wanted to scream. This person was a senior educational administrator but was devoid of confidence in and understanding of her students’ abilities to interact with others who were different.
My heart was beating so quickly. I felt sick to my stomach and angry at myself knowing that I had considered sending my twin daughters to this school.
After we ended the phone conversation and I allowed some time for my racing heart to calm down, I realized that some people live sheltered lives. They don’t allow themselves to experience the joys that come from learning something new and being exposed to someone who is different.
This school is located in a beautiful building, has a lovely and colourful playground and modern facilities. But it lacks something so much more important ? compassion.
I do not know a single person who would say their child has been negatively affected by my son. But I can list many people who would say their lives have been sweetened by spending time with Jacob and watching their children make him laugh his contagious laugh.
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Piercing the conversation comes my son’s full-bodied cry, floating like a hurricane down the stairs. I cringe, wondering how much longer I can sit in the stillness and peace of this adult conversation. I hear the pound of my husband’s footsteps across the tile and up the stairs and when the cries do not cease, I know I am needed.
The adult conversation continues, but I blithely interrupt, “Sorry, guys, I have to go. I’m breastfeeding and my son needs me.” They get it. They understand. I end up breastfeeding my son through the remainder of the class, balancing his tiny body on my lap while I try to listen intently, not to the loudness of his suckle, but to the quiet of a female voice somewhere in the distance.
I signed up for the writing class because I love to write. But I was terrified at the prospect of sharing with others. Would others judge me on my sentence formation? The grammatically incorrect way I form my prose? Would I really have stories to tell? But my fears evaporated with each session. Not only did I find that I did have stories, but that I had tapped into a wonderfully supportive and inspirational community. I am delighted to be playing a part in continuing that community here. I hope you will join me, and often.
It takes courage to share your writing with others. We don’t want your stories, your passions, to crumble into the dust of our everyday. So let’s motivate each other to keep writing, to keep laughing and to keep loving.
This week’s writing start: Starting Over
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]]>It all started with Jane wanting to pick up her baby sister. It was nothing malicious. She was just trying to be a good big sister. I warn her she’s not strong enough to do this and suggest they play something else instead. They move around the corner, out of my line of sight. The giggling and playing continues and I return to the kitchen. Unloading the dishwasher, my thoughts are now on sippy cups. Are these safe or do they contain BPA? Should we be buying stainless steel ones?
Throwing the last few into the drawer, I hear a heart-stopping thud. The sound of a tiny fragile head hitting hardwood steps. The lapse between the injury and the cry is a long one. She is really hurt. I fly around the corner like a madman. My heart is beating so fast and my palms are sweaty. I’m so afraid of what I will see.
There’s Jill lying crumpled on the floor. I scoop her in my arms, and enraged, I yell at Jane to get on the naughty mat, pointing with a shaky finger at the green dragonfly rug by the front door. Jane runs to the mat and sits down. There is no backtalk, no kicking and screaming. No fuss. She knows Jill is hurt.
Holding Jill close, I start to examine her. Will she have a head injury? Cradling her tiny little skull, I feel for any bumps and tenderness. There is no blood and she hasn’t lost consciousness or vomited. She is going to be okay. As her little chest heaves with sobs, I kiss her tear-streaked face and whisper, I love you. Finally, I take a deep breath and start to relax. It is only then that I look around the room and my gaze stops at Jane. My heart sinks. There she is, sitting so quietly on the naughty mat, her big, beautiful blue eyes full of tears and worry. She looks so small, so scared, so vulnerable.
I go over to her, wrap my free arm around her and reassure her Jill is okay and that it’s not her fault; it was an accident. I apologize for yelling and try to explain that I was afraid and wasn’t angry with her. I tell her mommies are sometimes naughty too.
We all snuggle together on the couch and read books. It feels so good to have the girls on each side of me. And by the time the stories are over, the crisis seems forgotten. Or is it? Not for me, probably not for Jane. I replay the ordeal over in my head, wishing I could press rewind and handle the situation differently. I wonder what my face looked like. I’m sure it was pretty frightening, especially to a sweet, sensitive four-year-old.
Since I’ve become a mother, I’ve felt more fear and anger than I ever did before. I worry constantly. I fear disease, losing my girls, everything. But most of all, I fear being a failure as a mom and making mistakes. Today, I was a failure.
At times, over the last four years, my heart has felt as if it would explode, my love for my children is so great. When they tell me they love me, when I have a magic kiss for a booboo, when they call for me in the night, I feel like I’m doing a good job. But, then sometimes I feel like my head is going to explode, and not from love. You know those days when your children just seem to lie on the ground screaming, just as you’re trying to get out the door. You try to pick them up and their shoulders collapse like noodles.You try to remain calm, but you can feel the warm blood rushing up your neck. Your cheeks and face flush. I know this happens to most everybody. But, when it happens to me, I feel like a failure, and I know it’s my fault. I’m the one who expects to be perfect, not them.
I never dreamed motherhood would be like this. During my pregnancy, I read a lot of books. Some were ?how-to’ books, some were funny and some were way out there. But they never prepared me for the fear and anger associated with motherhood. I pictured myself as calm and collected mom who laughs, sings and runs barefoot with my children in the sand. I never imagined myself as this tired, miserable, fear stricken woman who sometimes gets scared, yells and then feels terrible after. A mom, who spends a lot of time on the naughty mat.
When we first brought Jane home from the hospital, I remember sitting on our leather couch breastfeeding and gazing into the sleepy eyelids of this beautiful angel and starting to worry about how I was going to protect her from the world. I thought about all children and how innocent and beautiful they are, and I felt nauseated at the thought of someone hurting a child. Visions of horrible things ran through my mind. I thought of my own parents and the pain they must have felt when my brother died in a car accident when he was just 19. It was so sudden, with no goodbyes. And as sad as it was for me, it must have been unbearable for them. I don’t think there can be anything worse than losing a child. Maybe this is why I worry so much, I’m not sure.
Until I became a mother, I’d never felt true, unconditional love. But, I also never felt so inadequate. It has been much harder than I expected and I’ve made so many mistakes. I’m not the mom I dreamt I would be, but I’m learning to embrace the mother I’ve become, and I can only hope that, in the end, my girls and my husband will forgive me for my fear and anger, for all those mistakes. But first, I must forgive myself. I must get to know myself again, learn once again, how to relax and face the world with the confidence and exuberance of a child. My child. My children.
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]]>The T-Mobile G1 will be on hand from preferred T-Mobile stores and sellers launching on October 27th for $179. Two new data/messaging devices will also be available at $35 with limit less information and messaging and $25 with unlimited network some message-phone G1 with Google is at last here. Now here are various information about G1 Updates, Unlock G1 Phone, and G1 Phone Accessories.
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With the T-Mobile G1 fresh out on Wednesday, the Android team has at present well planned to print the primary G1 updates. According to Android team T-Mobile, the software and G1 updates. It take on few developments and virus fix and you will obtain a message on your T-Mobile, when G1 updates are on hand. It was spectacular that just after one day of its start T-mobile and Google are announcing an OTA G1 updates for bug fixes and running the errors. I?m not certain if I am amaze by the rapid function of this OTA revise or upset that one is gear up not 24 hours after begin. Why the G1 updates?
In the over the time, is it value $22.99 to make a Google phone Google-free? After 90 days of timeframe, T-Mobile customers can ask for a SIM unlock G1 phone code. Or you can hang around for a more complicated unlock G1 phone code that will not restrict the G1’s functionality. Also, a slew of company, as well as Motorola, are planning their own Google-powered cellular that probably well-matched with your cell service provider. At the moment, it doesn’t appear value your money to unlock G1 phone. A plain week after it?s launch, the T-Mobile G1 phone has been unlocked. But if you’re firm concerning starting your open-source to unlock G1 phone, there are a some thing you should identify. The Android Community is charging $22.99 for the unlock G1 phone code. Your Google account will no longer execute on the G1.
]]>Since that first class last spring, so much has happened. I’ve started classes in Toronto, taught by the fantastic Randi Myers (who wrote a poignant essay for my book, Between Interruptions: Thirty Women Tell the Truth about Motherhood) and I’ve started classes online. I’ve written a workbook for writer moms who can’t afford the money or time to take the classes. And now, I’ve started a blog…except it’s not really my blog. It’s your blog.
I’ve set it up so all Momoir Project students, and any writer moms for that matter, can meet virtually online to write together and share stories and inspiration. The blog will be run by my former online student, Karen Bannister. Luckily for me, she’s agreed to take this on. And what I’ve asked her to do is to inspire you to keep on writing, and stay connected. No easy feat.
This is how it will work. Karen will be blogging about her own life as a writer/mother once a week. And then, she will post a new writing prompt and ask for your submissions. Hopefully, many of you will use this opportunity to keep up with your writing and hopefully, many of you will send in your writing to Karen, who will then choose the best three and post them every two weeks. The comments will provide a virtual feedback forum, so that you can all talk to each other about your writing and your experiences as a mom.
I look forward to reading your work and staying in touch with you all!
Cori
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